Does your toddler hit you in midst of the most unexpected moment? Does he instinctively bang others or her/his sibling? Do they use hitting as a way to express their resentment? This article is for you. Before you learn how to deal with your children who hits, understand that it is a natural behavior.
Do not panic. Be clear with the 3 basic points. Firstly, there is nothing wrong in your parenting and there is nothing bad about your child.Secondly, the child has not yet learned other ways to respond.Lastly and most importantly children don’t need any punishment, they need you.
Do Not Hurt Back
When children hit, we have to definitely draw a line but it doesn’t mean you can hit them back. Remember if you respond with harshness, the behavior will persist. Your child will not stop hitting just because you yell or hit because for the simple reason your child doesn’t know the reason why you yelled or hit back. What your toddler doing now is only experimental and it will subside. When your child hit you, simply move away from the arm from the person he is hitting.As a parent, it is your responsibility to give your child information and not just reactions. The child should realize that it doesn’t feel good when he hits. The child will eventually lose its interest and focus on other activities like running, climbing and other such things.
Offer an Alternative
It is not a herculean task to help your child being impulsive. When your child hits another just hold the arms gently. To do this you have to have a keen sense of anticipation. When you are wondering if the child may hit you, get prepared to hold his hand.Being prepared is the only solution and not just hoping that his tendency to hit will subside by itself. It is quite natural for the child to cry or fall down in a tantrum when you hold the arm to stop from hitting but it is always better for the child to let go of all the negative emotions like fear or anger by crying rather than hitting.The negative emotion in a child is often being fear, it is good to let your child express it in a harmless way. When you remain calm and gentle you are letting your child know that she/he is free to let go of the feelings that have infected her behavior of hitting.
Your toddler may have the tendency to hit others only as longs as its novelty is lost. We have to remain calm and give time for the child to pick up other ways of responding. It is okay to inform other parents and teachers when your kid shows signs of aggressiveness. By doing so you are not complaining about your child, it shows your concern for other children as well. All parents and teachers should have experienced this, hence do not hesitate to seek their help and support in tempering your child’s behavior.