When you find a child rolling all over the floor at a shopping store, to some people it might absurd and to some might feel sympathetic; but it may just be a sign of temper tantrum where a parent would have denied the child a toy or a chocolate. It’s every parent’s worst nightmare—an toddler’s unstoppable temper tantrum, especially when you’re in public surrounded by a seemingly judgemental audience.
Experts believe there are few common triggers that set most toddlers off on a tantrum, including under/over stimulation, being tired, urge for independence, fear/anxiety, sensitivity, wanting to get their own way, being forced to share.
The best way to handle temper tantrums in children is to understand the types of tantrums that exist. That way we can respond to different types of temper tantrums with the right responses to help our children regain control.The average tantrum lasts about three minutes, according to Potegal’s research.Experts feel temper tantrums can be handled by following below these simple steps:
- Be patient:When your child is sweeping in a tantrum, he would not listen to reason and will respond to your yelling negatively. If you feel your frustrating mounting, it is suggested to calmly leave the room for a few minutes and return after your child has stopped crying. By staying calm, you’ll help him calm down, too.
- Take your child to a safe place:When a child is having a public tantrum, take him to your car or a public bathroom, where he can blow off steam. It is advisable not to overreact or lash out at your child because you’re embarrassed. Once you’re in a quieter place, calmly explain your position, and try to ignore the tantrum until it stops. If your child continues to scream best is to thread back home or in case you are at home ignore the tantrum that is thrown.
- Using intervals sparingly. Depending on the child, a time-out can be helpful when your child’s tantrum is especially intense and other techniques aren’t working. Placing your child in a quiet or – better yet – boring spot for a brief period (about one minute per year of his age) can be a good lesson in self-soothing.
- Talk it over when storm subsidies. When the tantrum subsidies, hold your child close and talk about what happened. Discuss the tantrum in very simple terms and acknowledge your child’s frustration. Help her put her feelings into words
- Let your child know you love him. Once your child is calm and talk to him about the tantrum and express your love by giving him a hug or a kiss which would sooth and comfort the child. Appreciate your child when he does something good or behaves well. It is important again to reward and encourage their good behavior and performance at certain occasions.
- Watch for stress inducing situations: Although daily tantrums are a perfectly normal part of the mid-toddler years, it is important to keep an eye on any possible problem at home front or may be an external factor.
If you feel child’s tantrums are frequent and intense, it’s best that you consult a doctor and seek help. Such visits do make a difference while discussing your child’s developmental and behavioral milestones Also, talk to your doctor if your child has frightening breath-holding spells when he gets upset. There’s some evidence that this behavior is linked to an iron deficiency.It is only through trial and error, you’ll learn which approach is right for your child. However you choose to handle the tantrum, the only way out is consistency in handling the tantrum which is key to making it work.